Sunday, July 20, 2014

No, I do NOT have the answers...Ask God

The other night my friend and I got into a heated discussion. She claimed that all people are born perfect and that we ruin our lives by the way we eat and live.
I said how do you explain the babies that have birth defects? Or the ones who have problems when they are born?
She said it is the fault of the parents. God made us all perfect in his eye and if there is a problem it is the parents fault.
I don't agree. I don't think parent can stop birth defects, I don't believe that parents have the choice to have a child that has cerebral palsy or downs syndrome. I also don't believe they choose for their baby to have a cleft mouth. nor twins born connected. or any of the millions of things that happen to babies who have millions of different problems when born and not perfect.
She claims it's the way they (the parents) live. She says if they don't live the pure life god wishes them to live then god will not bless them with a perfect child.
I said I know way to many people who lived a terrible, fast and bad lives and they have perfect children so that can't hold true.
She said sure they are born looking perfect but they will mess up in life and be a bad person and that will prove they are NOT perfect in god's eye. She said look at all the kids who look perfect as a baby and little kids and maybe even young adults. Then look at those same kids as they get older now they are suffering from ailments and its because they are not perfect. God gave them those ailments later in life to prove they didn't listen to him.
I gave up.
What she said could very well be true. All I know for sure is she is not perfect. to me she has a black heart.

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

Good Bye old friend

This week hubby,youngest son Tim,2nd oldest grandson Aaron, and 3rd oldest grandson Jeremy(Aaron's brother) started tearing down the house in South Dakota.
This is a far as they got when a guy from town came and made a deal with hubby. He would tear down the rest of the house, get rid of debris and fill in hole all for the measly cost of all 5 of my tractors.
Oh how I cried. Loosing my tractors is almost as bad as loosing my house. 2 John Deere tractors that are really worth a pretty penny.............if they were restored! But thing is hubby and I have no time to restore them. Nor the money if we had the time. Then hubby called after the deal was made and guess what? Some one had stole some parts off the tractors! ALL OF THEM!
Well the guy still wants them so the deal still goes through. This has been really hard on Aaron as well. He came to live with us in this house when he was 2. This is kinda his house too. His oldest brother Tj was already living with us when he arrived. We did so much together, delivered newspapers to our side of town. Walked to grocery store pulling wagon with Aaron in it then had to put Aaron on top of all the groceries because we didn't have a car, grandpa had only car we had and he was a Over the road trucker and he picked up his truck in Sioux Falls, SD which was a 3 hours drive from our house, so he took the only car we had. Then when we did get a car it was a car that every time you sat in it you weren't sure if you were gonna fall straight through to the ground. The kids and I played beauty shop in that house. We had "fancy dinners" the 3 of us even fancier ones when grandpa came home! They got pooh and tigger while living there. They each had their own cat and the cats looked so much alike couldn't tell which was which! Had our first family Thanksgiving there where everyone could actually sit at same table! (except kids lol they were at kid table)
So now I have to figure out Do I rebuild? Do I sell? What do I do? I loved that house more than this one that we have lived in for 34 years. 5 years in SD and 1 year in apartments = 40 together!
And this house has history behind it.
I think I might have mentioned it before. But one of my dad's old girlfriends lived in it. Right after we moved in dad came over for a visit and he was I like I know this house I've been here before He walked all over the house and outside and said YUP I KNOW THIS HOUSE! Then told me all about the girlfriend who used to live here. Then that night I meet that girlfriend! Small small world!
Good Bye Old friend. I loved you more than any other house I have lived in! and this is tearing me apart!

Sunday, July 06, 2014

July 4th The good The Bad The Ugly

Hey every body. Sorry I haven't been around much. We have been packing and cleaning this house plus we had to tear our home down in SD so been busy as heck.
But I wanted to update you a little bit.

First off a belated birthday wish to Fellow Blogger Barman whose Birthday was July 1st. Which is also Canada Day.

Then as you may or may not know July 4th is my birthday. I turned 60 this year.

And yeah it was not a birthday to remember.

I had gotten upset with my kids day before my birthday so I text them all and said DON'T BOTHER TO SHOW UP. I didn't even want them to come over for my birthday. And by the end of the day I wish I had stuck to that!

Birthday morning I got to sleep in. Hubby is on vacation so we lazed around till about 11. Then We got up got dressed and both got on our laptops. Well with in 10 mins I was crying all upset. 1st I get a text from youngest son saying I took this day off just so I could be with you yada yada yada. Then I read a post from daughter making me feel even worse for telling them to stay home. So after talking with hubby we say ok we will invite them over but tell them there is no food. Because you see every time these kids get together with us they never bring food or money and we end up buying every thing! So I let them know they can come over but I will have no food. They tell me no problem they will bring food. Ok I will accept that.

So they come over every thing is going good. Then youngest son says mom can you watch the kids for a little so his girlfriend and him can go over to the store and come right back? Ok I agree.
Well his kids are awful. They don't listen they don't mind and even when you spank them all they do is look at you say I hate you then keep right on doing what they just got spanked for. In other words the spanking didn't even faze them. (we yes we spanked hard)

Daughter finally called her brother she ends up hanging up on him. He walks in about 2 mins later and the screaming match starts. And goes and goes and goes. Hubby and I are screaming GET THE HELL OUT OF OUR HOUSE NOW. But they ignored us and kept right on yelling. Finally youngest son went outside he and his family was going to go home. Great! We haven't eaten cake and I was hoping to go to fireworks. Next thing I know daughter is also out side and they are yelling and swearing again. Where all my neighbors can hear. REALLY? WAY TO WREAK MY BIRTHDAY KIDS.
Oh did I say my oldest son didn't even bother to show up? Yeah he stayed home and went fishing. Actually THANK GOD! if he had been here who know what would have happened. He drinks heavily and uses drugs. So I guess I'm glad he stayed away.
About 2 hours later they finally settled down daughter apologized son apologized and we ate cake. We didn't get to go to fire works though. I was still so upset. I just couldn't go. I had cried and cried but these two just kept going. Now the thing is our daughter was right her brother and his girlfriend did nothing to discipline those kids ever and they ran amuck all the time. And they just didn't give a crap. But of course they didn't want to hear it they wanted to call her kids perfect. and when she said his kids were upsetting mom and dad because they left them here they go what about you you leave your kids every single day. They just would not see that they were wrong. Yes she leaves her kids every day I take care of them while she works. She doesnt make enough money for day care, like he does. Plus there are two of them to just her raising her 4 boys. and yes he had 4 kids too. And they both have jobs. So its really unfair. Totally a big night mare. So yeah I don't want to really be reminding of my 60th birthday. They all said they loved me and they were sorry but yeah Im still very hurt.